"By faith Abraham, when he was called, obeyed by going out to a
place which he was to receive for an inheritance; and he went out
not knowing where he was going." Hebrews 11:8
God often calls those whom He loves to
leave the comfort of the familiar to enter the discomfiting place
of the unfamiliar. After warning him of things not yet seen, God
called Noah to an unfamiliar task—building an ark. He called
Abraham to an unfamiliar place—the land of his inheritance. He
called David, a shepherd, to an unfamiliar profession—kingship.
All of these are reminiscent of the call to
home school—an unfamiliar task, an unfamiliar place, an unfamiliar
profession. As home schooling parents, we can easily become
overwhelmed by the unfamiliar. This can be one of the most
difficult aspects of home schooling—living life in the realm of
the unfamiliar, outside of our comfort zones. As human beings we
are creatures of habit, and that can be a good thing. We like
routine; we like the familiar; we like feeling comfortable.
Probably 99.9% of us went to traditional schools growing up. We
know what school "feels" like; that aspect of the familiar makes
sending our kids to school feel comfortable.
In many senses, when we start home
schooling, we leave the world of the familiar behind. Everything
is new. That can be exciting, but it can also be overwhelming and
intimidating. We know how to send kids to school—we've had
experience with that; after all, we all went to school. We don't
know exactly how to home school—how could we? We've never been
there.
In a real sense our ability to cope with
life in the realm of the unfamiliar will determine our success as
home schooling parents. There are many things we can do to help.
1. Give yourself time to adjust.
Be patient with yourself. Recognize that
for the first year or two of home schooling, you will be faced
with unfamiliar circumstances, which can be unsettling at times.
It's a little like traveling to a foreign country for the first
time—you don't know much of the language or the culture; but the
longer you stay there, the more at home you begin to feel.
Also, as you begin a new phase of home
schooling, such as teaching middle school, high school, or a
special needs student, these feelings of being overwhelmed by the
unfamiliar can quickly return. Just as soon as you get one area of
home schooling "down pat," you enter a new phase where everything
changes. Sometimes just knowing to expect this makes the coping
easier.
2. Give your children time to adjust.
Home schooling is not only new to you, it
is also new to your children—especially if they have been in a
traditional school setting heretofore.
3. Persevere.
Or in the words of Winston Churchill,
"Never, never, never give up."
4. Allow yourself the freedom to really
enjoy being with your children.
The intrinsic reward of home schooling is
the relationship that is possible with your children because of
the investment you are making in each other's lives. Play this
string for all it is worth. Refuse to let constant worrying choke
out your joy in living, loving, and growing together.
5. Don't lose your vision.
The goal of home schooling is to educate
and inspire the minds and hearts of your children, preparing them
to take their God-ordained places in this world. Equipping
children with knowledge, faith, and character is a high calling
and a noble adventure. It is easy to forget this in the course of
day-to-day living. Focusing on the long-term will help you
overcome obstacles in the short-term.
Zan Tyler is editor of the
HomeSchool Channel
for Crosswalk.com and the co-author of the book Anyone Can
Homeschool. She and her husband Joe have been homeschooling for
17 years.